Monday, April 7, 2008

"slutty bitch"

Got a Facebook message from one of Chris delightful friends, calling me a "slutty bitch."
I thought it was man-faced Liz or Chris over looking this girls shoulder telling them what to write.  Well whomever was behind it, it offended me both as a bitch and someone who doesn't view sex as a slutty thing. 

What's wrong with being a bitch? Or sexual curious? I don't get it, when did being a strong women mean you were wrong? I know I'm overly assertive, aggressive, physical, cocky,  loud mouthed and opinionated, so why wouldn't this AWESOME FSU girl call me a man? Wouldn't that be more accurate in her closed-extremely sexist mind? I would, by today's sexist standards i suppose. 

Well the slutty part I don't get, I'm the most moderately dressed person i know when i "go out." Sorry i can't help it if guys hit on me, even ones that may have a girlfriend.  Girls whom are intimidated by other girls usually are called sluts which is what I assume this is. 

Hmmm well, as Kanye West would say, "take this haters"  I could care less. 

Friday, March 21, 2008

"Incest/rape/abuse is boot camp for prostitution."

This subject touches my heart, its why im in women's studies, sexual abuse and violence against women. I argue with Chris all the time, he thinks prostitution should be legal, i couldn't disagree more. This show, that i furiously copied ALL this info word for word broke my heart. Broke it. We've had "guest speakers" in class that were street walkers, abuse victims, but never like this. 2 hours and i couldn't believe what i was seeing and hearing from these girls OWN mouths.


20/20 "Prostitution in America, working girls speak" **** They sent two years on this. Two years.*****

American Citizens outlook

*disposable beings

*thats your choice, even if violence ensues

*many single moms, baby's father took off, sluts/hoes.

*low life's

Stats listed on the Program

*1 in 4 physically abused or raped

*120 more times more likely to be murdered for women in sex trade industry's.

*Almost all poor

*3/4 sexual abused/physically abused/broken homes

*So many are killed each year, almost never makes the news, since most people don't care

*Women often bounce around from one area to another, streets, brothel, strip club, drugs for sex

*Statistic's about prostitutes hard to research, no one seems to care.

*90% of street prostitutes have pimps, many start out as boyfriends. Violence and drugs consume.

* 85000 women arrested in 2005 for "jobs", there is no national number for a "johns", women are prostituted more because its an easier case.
Police say very few women have residence, so they get longer prison sentences. but men caught mostly, can pay the 14 hundred dollar fine /HIV test and walk free {in Nevada} and have probation (no probation without stable residence). Now across the country theres "John Schools" for those who pick up prostitutes, a school where men learn for a few hours what they did wrong and women mostly go to jail.

*Many want to end it but end up on streets and come back. The shame is to big. They have no school. MAny homeless and foster children become prostitutes, some say 50% others say 75%, its hard to tell because its such a forgotten world, no one cares.

**EVEN in a legalized states, like Nevada, 85% women arrested for prostitution are jailed, (street prostitution not legal, only brothels), but its cheaper so even if its legal in Nevada, street prostitution is by far more popular. Yet women are the ones facing the brunt of the danger.

*the Netherlands and Sweden have brought organized crime to their legalized prostitution. Girls are disappearing, no one is looking for them, they are replaced by the other hundred girls around. Drugs are becoming more and more rampit. So many sex slaves of young girls that the government are trying new laws to get rid of it. One worker from Amsterdam stated, "almost everyone was brought here against their will. They...they don't want to be here. We are beat. Raped. We hate to pretend to smile in windows. Shame. Girls are brought here to young, sold, like animals."


I remember going to Montreal with Dick and one of his friends, we were walking around and one of his friends, on the street, quizzed a prostitute on her prices, dick started to protest but this guy walked over anyways. IHe walked over just to see how much she was and i guess he gave her hope, cause he walked away with a smug faced sneer and she called out (a lower price i guess) of 20 dollars and he started laughing as he walked back to me and Dick standing their waiting for him. I saw a really bad side of someone i thought was okay, and soon after, this person went through problems of his own and dropped out of college so i don't hold it against him, something was already going on in his head.

They also did a photo montage of many women (even in the legal Brothels )and their "descent into hell" how horrible they age, you can see their souls leaving their bodies. I couldn't believe what i was seeing. How could anyone say prostitution should be legal? These are womens bodies, this is high and low class prostitution and they all hate themselves. Legalizing it would make maybe more girls go into it, maybe some that normally wouldn't of. I can't get this one quote out of my head, "Incest/rape/abuse is boot camp for prostitution." I know its ...I'm not blaming men completely, but i can see this. I can see this and it brakes my heart.



They did a segment about "What if it were legal? Talking about {Nevada} and other countries, would it make a difference?
Owners of brothels constantly coaching, pushing more and more. He takes half their pay. They pay their own rent and food, only slightly discounted.
Many lost children of the foster homes. Many had 10 foster homes growing up. Brothel owners (according to women who work there) often recruit from foster children's friends who were foster kids themselves. Again, In Nevada, street prostitution is illegal but by far more popular since it's cheaper, more dangerous, many more deaths when legal areas, even abroad. Suicide rates of women very high .


Quotes

"once your in it, its a lot harder to get out of then you think"
"hardest part?,,,having to be me when its done"
"i hate sex" multiple women said this
Moonlight Bunny Ranch- "Still get shaky, having drinks helped....i don't like doing this."
Moonlight Bunny Ranch- "If you don't like pain, this is the job for you, you'll be numb..... You'll, ......you'll never experience pain, but you wont experience love either"
"there are men who ask me to pretend im there 12 year old daughter...this happens to other girls i talk to."
"Many want the GFE, the Girl Friend Experience"

MAX highest earner Bunny Ranch- "I didn't marry for money, i didn't take any when i left, i had to do it for money, i had nothing left. No schools, nothing. "

"Captain Save a Ho" Bunny Range girl explains - "Like Pretty Women, A guy looking to save us girls, you cant save us anymore."
Bunny Range- "drugs are here, they cant show it, you cant, but its everywhere.Keeps us. Keeps us here"

Owner Bunny Ranch -"be that fantasy, fulfill that dream, make that money, you'll live happily ever after with money."

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

It's been a while, school has been kicking my ASS, i need to get my act together, I've been busy being a bookworm and doing the grad school applications.

Why are girls in TV shows like, "Girlicious:The Search for the Next Pussycat Doll" or last season hit, "the Search for the next Pusscat Doll" using the word "girl power." They run around in washcloth clothes with more dollar store glitter then hoes that work the corner of I95. And don't get me started on the Judges, {Robin?) whom started the original group, has more collagen in her mouth then her fake boobies, the other judge, "lil' Kim has had as many face surgery's then Michale Jackson and looks just as.....good.

These shows are all about girl fights, to much makeup, knee high socks and booty shorts and long hair. Throw in the words "girl power" and it's empowering? Lets me fucking real. Its tits and ass for boys to jerk off to and girls to emulate.

Thank god for reality TV. Makes me reassured why i wanna be a writer.

Thursday, December 6, 2007

A Prayer from Alice Walker

WOMAN

TO STOP THE VIOLENCE
AGAINST
WOMAN,
WOMAN
MUST STOP THE VIOLENCE
AGAINST HERSELF

WE CAN BEGIN TO DO THIS
NOW, NOW THAT WE SEE
A SKY
AND NOT A ROCK
A STICK
OR A FIST
ABOVE ALL
OUR HEADS

WOMAN

TO STOP THE VIOLENCE
AGAINST WOMAN,
STOP THE VIOLENCE
THAT YOU
PERPETUATE
AGAINST
YOUR OWN
SISTER
WHO IS
A WOMAN, YOUR OWN
DAUGHTER
WHO IS
A WOMAN,
YOU OWN
DAUGHTER-IN-LAW
WHO IS
A WOMAN
YOUR OWN
MOTHER
WHO IS A WOMEN

WOMAN

TO STOP THE VIOLENCE
AGAINST WOMAN.
STOP THE VIOLENCE
THAT LIVES
IN OPPOSITION
TO YOUR LIFE,
DEEP IN YOUR
OWN TERRORIZED AND
UNCHERISHED HEART

WOMAN

REMEMBER WHO WE ARE:
NOT 'GUYS'
BUT
THE MOTHER
OF ALL
LIVING
WE CREATE OUT OF OUR OWN BLOOD
AND MILK
EVEN
THE CREATURES
WHO OPPRESS
US;
WHETHER THEY ARE MEN
OR
OURSELVES

WOMEN

AWAKE!ARISE!
STAND UP!

WOMAN

TO STOP THE VIOLENCE
AGAINST
WOMAN,
GET UP
ON YOUR PERFECTLY
UNBOUND FEET
WE HAVE LOST THE EARTH
LIVING ON OUR KNEES



http://members.tripod.com/chrisdanielle/alicemain.html
http://www.luminarium.org/contemporary/alicew/

Are some of the many web pages on Alice Walker, a person who has changed the women's movement not just for women by black women.
The first feminist movement was mostly middle class white women, Alice Waker, completely changes that around. She showed race issues and sexism through her book, "The Color Purple."

She continues to inspire me today so I wanted to dedicate an entry to her.



Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Ant-Feminist Websites

http://freewebs.com/antifeminist 

I debated showing the link, then i saw how little people went to this website. Basically its a ridiculous way for men to put down women. It's almost laughable.

These websites were few and far between.  They warn not to donate money to women's groups as and under the link, "what can i do?" it states on the page that men are, "Forced to commit a violent act" against women. Not women who threaten them or mock them, just women who think they are as good as men.

Thankfully after research, it was easy to find out what pig wrote this, a hick, a male hick, I imagine he has a confederate flag and wears overalls and is missing his teeth. I suppose he thinks African Americans aren't equal to whites either. 

Yet how many men walk around with these ideas? This is why feminism still exists. 

Whenever I tell a male I'm a feminist i either get a "good for you" or a "why you're so pretty!" 
I don't think these men are the norm, in fact, they just get angrier and angrier because days of the "good old boy" are long gone and they cant change with the times. Male chauvinists are a dieing breed and I can't wait till they are extinct. 



Beauty Pagents

Why do we really care if Ms. Puerto Rico was pepper sprayed? I clicked onto the MSN home page and low and behold she was on the front cover. http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/22111394?GT1=10645

Who cares whether or not she was pepper sprayed. There are child slaves and girls getting their clitorises chopped off in female mutilation and this, this is what we care about?

Beauty competitions such as Ms. Universe only started, as well as cheerleaders because women weren't allowed to play organized sports. So thus, they started an organization devoted to beauty. So what is their role now? To inspire young girls to fit into the "norm." Big breasted skinny girls with overly made up hair and pancaked makeup and brushed and poised within a inch of their lives?

I just can't see how this woman, whether she cheated to win or not, deserves any PR at all. She didn't cure cancer, she didn't stop world hunger. She's just a pretty girl with a big sexy scandal surrounding her so the media pays attention.

Saturday, December 1, 2007

In Honor of Victoria Secret Fasion Show

Do me a favor? Know when the "fashion show" (or skank show) airs on CBS you realize what you're looking at is silicone and makeup. These images are what hurts us as females. Walking through the mall, I couldn't help but noticed what the media has done to us as women. We have been made to look like sexual objects, to always look sexually available.
The truth is, most women don't know what they want or their purpose because they are to busy trying to be what men want (I'm speaking about girls my age, 18-30) , sexual objects. In the book, "Transforming A Rape Culture," on page 213 it state's
(THIS IS MY FAVORITE QUOTE SO READ IT CAREFULLY),

"What a girl wants, what a women wants, is what Freud knew is held precious by every MAN: self-determination, autonomy within reason, life without undue fear, liberty without causing harm to others, and the ability to pursue one's happiness. None of those desires can be fulfilled for women so long as we live in a rape culture. A general recognition is dawning that our culture will need both women and men who are strong, wise and generous if the future is to be better then the present."

I can't help but think we could have all this as women if we can start to understand we aren't billboards for sex. We don't have to play stupid and we can assert what we want without bringing sex into it. That women can still have worth if we are not walking sex.