Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Stripping

Stripping, titty bars, nude bars, topless bars, it's all a sticky subject when it comes to womens issues. Is it an exchange of power for money, (since women do indeed still make 76% to what men make)? Perhaps it's a form of power over?
To me really, it's all visual masturbation, I know I'm going to get "eye fucked" or "mentally undressed" by men even if I'm 100% covered up, I cant help that. So to me, it doesn't matter if a female is naked or not, men will still imagine women however they choose (but probably naked).
I also think it's freeing to be naked or walk around and show some skin when for hundreds of years men have told women to cover up, that womens bodies should be something of shame, as long as its respectable, (for example Playboy yes, Hustler no}.
I don't like to tell others what to do with their bodies or how to display it, so I don't. Stripping to me, can be a powerful thing, it can be beautiful, it can be sexy but it can also be demeaning and disgusting, I think it comes down to whats right for the individual. What if a single mother works 2 nights a week and is able to spend the rest of the time with her children? What about a student trying to make their way through University?
Whose to judge what goes on in anyone else's life?

Abortion

Abortion, it's an extremely controversial topic, both sides should be clearly heard.
My opinion, since this is my blog, is more important then what others have to say on this topic so I'm going to focus on that{I kid, I kid}.

Here are my short version of a long and complicated topic. It's not women in Congress making these laws up, it's men in suits telling women what to do with their bodies. If it were women getting together deciding what should be done, it might be a little easier. Yet it's not women, it's men, men who have no idea what its like to be a women. How fast would a man change his opinion if his wife or daughter or sister was rapped? How fast would they change their opinions?

Further more, how come the government does not regulate male masturbation? How many million of "potential children" are killed every time a male whacks off? Why doesn't the Catholic Church get on that? Oh yea maybe the church is preoccupied with alter boys....I kid..sorta.

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Whore/Madonna Complex

It seems in this day and age, women can only be sluts or virgins {think the "mothering figure}. Why is women are only one or the other.
I made the mistake of watching the show, "Americas Next Top Model," they critiqued girls if they were just "pretty" or simply "mens magazine pretty."
Why is it women can not be sexy and motherly? Women can not own their sexuality if they have kids? People magazine has their "sexiest male celebrity" and they are almost all fathers.
If women are mothers and sexy, they are branded the title of 'M.I.L.F.' which means, "Mom I'd Like to Fuck." Super classy right? Women can be mothers but must know their place of men's sexual things.

Friday, October 19, 2007

Women and weight




























These pictures were all altered on the website http://celebsonfire.wordpress.com/2007/04/17/fat-hot-celebrities/ . Why is it we pick on women and their weight so horribly? Why is it fat women are useless in todays society?
Female standard of beauty is unreachable without computer airbrushing because its impossible! So when a women gets "large" she is disposable. We are so obsessed with weight loss in this country we have enough time to Photoshop celebrities pictures.
Mens appearance are not critiqued as much as the female form, although its close. I think it's because its men setting the standards in the beauty industry.
One has to wonder why we find these photos just "so amusing."

Thursday, October 18, 2007

Women's Poverty Part 2

Women are more and more becoming the brute force of poverty in this country, as I discussed in my last blog, not only do women get paid less, they also have other factors within their fight to stay above the poverty level.


"At the same time that women produce 75 to 90 percent of food crops in the world, they are responsible for the running of households. According to the United Nations, in no country in the world do men come anywhere close to women in the amount of time spent in housework. Furthermore, despite the efforts of feminist movements, women in the core [wealthiest, Western countries] still suffer disproportionately, leading to what sociologist refer to as the “feminization of poverty,” where two out of every three poor adults are women. The informal slogan of the Decade of Women became “Women do two-thirds of the world’s work, receive 10 percent of the world’s income and own 1 percent of the means of production.”

Richard H. Robbins, Global Problems and the Culture of Capitalism, (Allyn and Bacon, 1999), p. 354 found at http://www.globalissues.org/HumanRights/WomensRights.asp#FeminizationofPoverty


I am not saying that women are better then men at all, I'm just asking for women to get the recognition they deserve. I think men are reminded how hard they work, I mean, thats basic American History, our founding fathers, how man built this country. Women have been toils of war, stepped on, left to raise the children at home, made to cook and and clean and have children.

I remember, way before I even knew what feminism was, I read this eye opening book and it was excerpts from real, {100% real} diary's and story's of women and depression all the way up from the 1800 century till now. I really really wish i still had it this book or bought it but thats besides the point. There was a few chapters about child rearing and bringing up children and it was so depressing. These women were praying, hoping, writing that they wished they died in their next child birth, that they were so exhausted they wished death. Another women said they would "expose" their little girls because she didn't want them to have the miserable life she had. These were entries from 1900.

I just remembering reading this and being horrified and I can't help wishing i was born a white. A white middle class man would could be free to do what they wanted, I couldn't help but feel jipped being born a girl.

Will this world ever see the contribution's of women?


Women's Poverty Part 1

Estimated earnings for women are substantially lower than for men
RegionEstimated earnings per year (in 1000s of US dollars at 2003 prices)Percentage of men’s earnings

Key:

  • The first number in each row represents women
  • The second number in each row represents men

Estimated earnings are defined as gross domestic product per capita (measured in US dollars at 2003 prices adjusted for purchasing power parity) adjusted for wage disparities between men and women. Some numbers rounded for display purposes.

Source: UNICEF, State of the World’s Children, 2007, p. 41, Figure 3.3

Industrialized nationsWomen 21
Men 37
57%
CEE/CISWomen 4.6
Men 8
59%
Latin American and
Carribean
Women 4
Men 10
40%
East Asia and PacificWomen 4
Men 6.5
62%
Middle East and North
Africa
Women 2
Men 7
28%
South AsiaWomen 1
Men 2.5
39%
Sub-Saharan AfricaWomen 1
Men 2
51%






Women are often underpaid in other countries {this graph found on page http://www.globalissues.org/HumanRights/WomensRights.asp#WomenWorkMoreThanMenButArePaidLess} yet how many people know that the women in this country are severely underpaid as well.
Just think how much work single mothers do and don't get paid for. They cook, clean, do their own child care, car pool and do errands, all of this is a job in itself. Most single mothers have another job on top of taking care of their children and most have to pay for child care when they are at work, causing them to lose even more money.
So why does "womens work" go so unnoticed in this country as well as others. I think men, yes, I'm going there, I think men take us for granted. I think men assume we will do everything and stay quiet, that it's "our roles." That they can go "SPREAD THEIR SEEDS" and we're suppose to just sit tight and have THEIR kids and everything is fine and dandy. And GOD FORBID they get emotional about it, GOD FREAKIN FORBID we have feelings and don't want to be treated as if we will always be there for them, to be taken advantage of mentally, verbaly and physicaly.

Facebook or predator stomping ground?

According to the website http://womensissues.about.com/ Facebook is the new way for predators to spy on young kids:


"The Office of the Attorney General (OAG) of New York State announced on September 24 that it was looking into Facebook's safety controls. This action was prompted by the results of undercover tests conducted earlier by OAG investigators. Posing as underage users between 12 and 14 years old, the investigators set up Facebook profiles and found out how vulnerable children and adolescents are to the advances of adult sexual predators. As a news release from the Attorney General's Office stated:

Within days of opening these accounts, the OAG received numerous sexual solicitations from adults sent to several of the underage profiles, including:

l “u look too hot....... can i c u online (webcam)? im avl at . . .”
l “i'd love to get off on cam for you hun ; P”
l “do you like sex?”
l “if u want call me [number deleted] or u can give me ur number?”
l “call me if u want to do sex with me [number deleted] ok”

Underage profiles set up by the OAG received several other solicitations of a more graphic nature."


What is with these men that they can't keep it in their pants? What is it about these websites that bring out the worst in men. Theres no excuse, women aren't perfect, so why can women resist the urge to prey over the internet and sexual harass young males? Women can also be sex offenders, yet one has to wonder why on "To Catch a Predator" or websites like these there are vastly fewer female sex offenders preying on young males.

Why is it that myspace.com and facebook.com even have profiles available for underage students, really what can they talk about? They have cell phones and AOL Instant Messenger so I can't imagine that having an Internet profile can do that much more for them. Why not make these sites 18 and over, even if it's mildly unfair, it could be safer.


Monday, October 15, 2007

Muslim Barbie?

I was on my Hotmail page, when low and behold I came across a title that said "Hot Topics" and a link to the site, http://www.buzzfeed.com/buzz/Muslim_Barbie .
Yes, ladies and gentleman, there is now a Muslim Barbie, her name being 'Fulla'. Thanks to a mother who wanted her daughters to play with a more 'modest toy.' Granted I don't think girls in general need to play with Barbies, with their short shorts and big blue eyes and DSL lips, they all look like the ideal Americanized woman.
Yet as much as i wanted to like this idea of a Muslim Barbie is still makes me irritated. This Barbie, though yes modestly dressed still has double D boobs, a tiny waist and hot hooker pink lips, {umm hello? No one even wears hooker pink lipstick anymore.}
Ahhhh what man doesn't want their woman to look like a freak of nature. I did a paper in high school about the measurements of a "life sized Barbie" and she would literally topple over by the weight of her breasts and her tiny waist couldn't hold her up. Lovely, crush little girls self esteem more eh?
Not everyone in the middle east is loving this doll either. This quote was taken from the web page: http://www.justtotheleft.com/2005/09/barbie-muslim-style.html
'Maan Abdul Salam, a Syrian women's rights advocate, said Fulla was emblematic of a trend toward Islamic conservatism sweeping the Middle East. Though statistics are hard to come by, he said, the percentage of young Arab women who wear the hijab is far higher now than it was a decade ago"

I agree to everyone having the right to religion yet I don't think a women should be forced to cover her body. I look at this like the female form is so hideous it has to be covered. I just don't think we're sluts or 'easy' if we wear t-shirt that show our arms yet I also think this new Barbie is a better replacement then the original. So I suppose I am unsure where I stand on this issue, I can see both sides of the argument and both make sense. So i suppose, the better question is, what do you think?

Hollywood pretends to be perfect


Salma Hayek boobs she said were real till this photo was brought to her attention.












Idol wannabe Kellie Pickler's "pre op and post op."















Matthew McConaughey's hair is fuller at his premiere in far right 2006, but looks a little thin at Lakers game in 2000 far left.







Paris Hilton's profile in 2001 far left, and in 2007 with a very different nose.










(All of the celebrity's above have deniedor made no comment about their obviously physical improvements.}
Why is it celebrities pretend that they don't have cosmetic surgeries. I think it's to keep the illusion that they are perfect. We give them such high standards that the idea of being normal propels them to lie about their surgeries so god forbid, they are like us normal human beings with flaws.
So with these lies and well done surgeries, I can only imagine how helpless a preteen/adolescent girls feel when they are constantly comparing themselves to their favorite celebrities.
Besides whats so bad about flaws? Flawed noses can add personality, scar's tell stories, lopsided smiles are cute. My absolute favorite thing about my boyfriend is the long scar he got on his right hand where his pinkie finger was removed after an accident in the Army. It's overly sentimental {defiantly overly sentimental for me, I hate romantic movies} but every time I see it, it reminds me how lucky I am he's alive and well and that though yes we all die, it reminds me to enjoy the time we have to together. I guess it reminds me of our own mortality and to me that's romantic. But I'm a freak i suppose.

The point is, if we all looked the same, no one would be beautiful and no one would be ugly, we'd all be robots. Variety is the spice of life! We as women should not to look to others to what we "should look like" and just be who we are.

Sunday, October 14, 2007

Women in Fashion Advertisements


It seems in fashion, women are not only objects, they are sexually powered over by men. They are subliminal messages to the public that slips into our subconsciousness. It's always "men on top" even in a phone ad!









Fashion ad's are notorious for their portal of female sexuality as disposable to men. Take the add by Dolce & Gabbana, its an orgy and the women is helpless. This is rape. Made into a fashion layout. This disgusts me.







This is a typical racist add of women, the "bad black" vs. "the pure white race." What the hell is this add selling? We don't have any idea, because we would just look at the image and flip the page. But these images stay with us, unknowingly and play into our racism.




This add is for ice cream people, ice cream. Used over in Europe. Yup, just wanted to throw this one in there to show just how messed up we as human beings are.

Thursday, October 11, 2007

rap lyrics

hail Mary full of grace.. smack the bitch in the face;
take her Gucci bag and the North Face
off her back, jab her if she act
Hit mummy in the tummy if the hooker plays a dummy
Slit the wrist of little sis
After she sucked the dick, I stabbed her brother with the icepick
because he wanted me to fuck him from the back


These are lyrics to Notorious B.I.G. song "Dead Wrong" where he openly talks about hurting women and controlling them. Not just that, the "Notorious B.I.G." openly beat his wife, Faith Evans and his popularity grew, not declined when this information was made public.

Why is it gangster rap can openly talk about "hoes" and "bitches" and "sluts" with no one saying anything. Women in the music videos for these songs are simply there for their butts or tits all shaking violently at the camera. Really, don't they know that yes, they are gaining fame they are making themselves into just things, sexual things. That these men don't even view them as human beings. How is it empowering to have a man curse so violently at women?

"Put Anthrax on a Tampax and slap you till you can't stand." -- Eminem, "Superman"

"Baby you're so precious
Daddy's so proud of you
Sit down bitch
If you move again I'll beat the shit out of you"---Eminem "Kim"


Eminem was made famous for being a white gangster rapper and I believe he made beating his wife mainstream. At his concerts he took blow up dolls and ripped them apart and said it was his wife "Kim." He even "pretend-acted out violence" in his music videos. This lead to speculations that his wife tried to committing suicide over this. He did not stop.


So when does it stop? When do we say enough?





Tuesday, October 9, 2007

To all who think feminism isn't needed anymore....

According to "Perezhilton" celebrity blogger, he posted this item on his blog under Icky Icky Poo > Film Flickers:


"Jeff Robinov, Warner Bros president of production, has industry players buzzing over his future. His decree that “we are no longer doing movies with women in the lead” has sent shock waves throughout the movie biz and even Gloria Allred is complaining!

The LA Weekly is reporting that Robin made his misogynistic decree following the box office disappointments of Jodie Foster’s The Brave One and Nicole Kidman’s The Invasion.

Somebody’s in big trouble!"


This statement, is just an insult to all actresses. What are women suppose to be, just pretty little things in the backdrop of a film? Some "tit's and ass" for men to see, visual masturbation? This man is reducing women to nothing more then objects and saying they are not strong enough to lead a movie. He is arguing a mental weakness in my perspective, (one could easily argue women are physically weaker then men in most cases}, making it something women lack in comparison to men.

Perhaps it goes to show men are not willing to see women in strong roles, that it's a threat to their own masculinity. That the problem does not belong to women in leading roles, it belongs to men refusing to acknowledge that women's roles are changing, both in the cinema world and the real word.

Perez Hilton's blog, { located at www.perezhilton.com} is read by millions of people all over the world, he even received his own TV show due to the popularity of his website. Not only is he bringing this injustice to the worlds attention, Perez Hilton is bashing him, so that his blog readers see how outrages this statement is.

This is an outrages, sexist statement. Proving it's still the men who run things in Hollywood and women are still pretty little things to them . Hopefully this kick in the ass will open some eyes.

Thursday, October 4, 2007

Makeup..friend or foe?

I get why people like makeup or don't wear it at all. You can look natural and improve your appearance when worn correctly {hello giant pimple} or one can look like Tammy Faye Baker

What few girls don't know is the point of makeup is to look aroused. It's made to redden the lips and cheeks, which is what happens when women are sexual aroused. So we use lipstick and blush to walk around looking constantly aroused, to a point.

I have mixed feelings about it personally. I know a ton of feminists that refuse to wear it, find it insulting for "the man" to tell you how to look, to look sexual at all times. I think makeup is changing, now it can be a point of expression. I like to wear that thick 1950's eyeliner and smudge the hell out of it so I get that rock-n-roll and cat-eye look. Sometimes I do bright red lips and white eyeliner to stand out. Really makeup, when you know what you're doing, can be fun.

There are drawbacks, such as men don't wear makeup, they are taught they don't have to always look sexually available. In fact, they can get away with looking casual 99% of the time while girls must have makeup speckled on and their tits or ass or legs showing to be considered attractive. Except for drag queens, who pile it on and over exaggerate what a woman should look like, they play characters of woman (or so I've been told).

So perhaps makeup can only be judged by the individual user, is it a must or something fun? Can you live without it? Perhaps when you go through a couple of tubs of mascara and lipstick you might rethink that look you've got going. I think it's all in the mascaraed eye of the beholder.

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

The Worst Thing to be Called?..

"Man, you're such a pussy."


How many times is this phrase used in a day? Whether its a man calling another man that or a man calling a girl that or visa versa. Basically it means you're the biggest wimp ever
So what does this make us as women?

If our sex organs, {or really slang word for our vagina} is the biggest insult to men, what then does that make us, the biggest wimps, something that should be viewed as dirty?
Women in general, are taught to be ashamed of their bodies, they are bombarded by images daily that their boobs aren't big enough, they aren't thin enough, they aren't pretty enough and now with this language used, women are ashamed of the one organ used to create life that, yes, even men are given birth through.
So instead of continuing to have this word being used against us {like the word, "cunt"} to put us in our place, lets fight back and correct people when they use this word in a negative fashion.

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

If I were a boy....

I came home from running the Pompano Blimp Base, {a five mile track) at nine o'clock at night. I was told not to do that anymore. I was pissed as usual and said,

"If I were a boy you'd let me!"

To which he replied

"Yes, maybe but i like you as a girl."

I don't get it, if I can run five miles and not get winded, certainly I can handle a guy trying to kidnap me. I always carry my knife with me, strapped around me leg and never listen to music so loud that I don't know whats going on in my surroundings.
I truly do not see how a penis dangling between my legs makes me safer. Does anyone see that logic?
I was in a baggy shirt and shorts, not dressed in "tight workout women's clothes," even though I shouldn't have to describe what I dress myself in! I should be able to walk around naked and men should be able to control their urges to not attack me {well everyone but the boyfriend, i attack him when he's naked}.

Yet I feel I must explain I was not dressed provocative so people don't accuse me of 'asking for it." Sad isn't it? {We as women attack each other when it comes to rapes and kidnappings, we ask, was she drinking? What was she wearing? Placing blames on the victims.}
I wish my father treated me like my older brother, who he doesn't give rules and restrictions to, especially since he got me into playing sports on men's teams.
If he only knew my fighting past....